Dealing With Teachers and Parents As a Divorced Father
The season is changing and school has started back up for the year with new teachers and staff, and you have found yourself again left out of the loop as to what is going on in the daily lives of your kids. Now what? It’s not fair that every year you have to reestablish your right to access to information about your kids when your Ex doesn’t have to, and refuses to share with you regularly as the court dictates.
However, there are things you can do minimize the “damage” early on. Before school starts, you can send the principle, secretary, and all of your children’s teachers an email explaining your family situation and requesting that you be copied in on any and all emails sent out about your children and their activities at school. You can also request that duplicate copies of any information sheets, grades, teacher notes, etc. be sent home to both you and your Ex. If they give you any trouble, do NOT back down and get the court orders out if necessary to put some “pressure” on them.
It is your RIGHT to know what is going on in the daily lives of your kids, and school is a huge factor. It is not okay for the school to aid your Ex in excluding you from your children’s lives, whether the school staff is doing so intentionally or not. The teachers and staff may not realize that what they are doing is potentially helping your Ex exclude you, but it is unfortunately your job to make sure that you are not left out. You will sometimes have to get in their faces a bit to get them to comply with you, and most will be more than willing to do so.
Also, when it comes to parent-teacher conferences, it is perfectly reasonable to request two meetings, one scheduled with your Ex’s participation and one just for you to be able to air your concerns. Again, most teachers and staff will be more than willing to do this, and if not do not back down if this is something you feel you need for your kids’ benefit. The first and most important thing to remember when fighting for your rights as a father in any situation is to never give up and never back down when you feel your rights are being violated or denied! No one will do it for you!